What Defines Your Beauty – 3 Ways to Embrace Your Natural Beauty

by: Saviela Edwards Thorne

Have you ever stopped to think who determines your beauty? Whose opinion of beauty means the most to you….Society, the media, God, your husband, your friends?  We are living in a superficial society where unless your face is “beat” you are not considered beautiful. Will we ever get to the point when we love and are happy and satisfied with the face we see when all the make up in removed? I must admit, I struggled with this issue a lot to the point where I became insecure about who I was because I didn’t think I matched up to someone whose face was beautifully “beat” (By the way I absolutely hate that term because it has such a derogatory meaning). I had to learn that loving the woman God created me to be, flaws and all, helped me to be able to love others. I have my moments but in the back of my mind I hear myself saying you are beautiful, fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalms 139:4).

Self-beauty comes from within. It’s not based on the opinions of others. Self-beauty is knowing you are beautiful whether you receive a compliment or not. Self-beauty is accepting who you are and not who you “make-up” to be. I’m not knocking or judging make up I am just wondering if we really love and see true beauty within. When I hear comments like “Every girl deserves to look and feel beautiful” regarding make-up it truly concerns me because I don’t know if we appreciate and love our natural beauty.

Below are a few ways we as women can learn to embrace our true natural beauty:

1. You are created in the image of God:  Genesis 1:27 KJV states “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” God establishes in the very first chapter of the Bible that we were created in HIS own image.  He also confirms in the very next verse, that he blessed them. I noticed a trend with everything God created he always said it was good. Though you may struggle at times on how you feel, you can rest assured that God sees you as His masterpiece created in HIS likeness.  Ecclesiastes 3:11 KJV states, “He hath made every thing beautiful in his time.”  You are absolutely beautiful and perfect in His eyes.

2. You are Beautiful: I know there are days when you just don’t feel beautiful but what exactly is beauty and how is it defined? According to Dictionary.com beauty is “the quality present in a thing or person that gives intense pleasure or deep satisfaction to the mind.” The key word in this definition is satisfaction. The true measure of beauty is determined by you. You set the standard of beauty so why not consider that person you look at in the mirror after all the “enhancements” are washed down the drain to be the measure of beauty for you. 1 Peter 3:4 NLT states, “You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.” Self-beauty starts with self-acceptance. Don’t wait on others to validate your beauty. Tell yourself every morning before you apply one dot of make-up that YOU are beautiful just the way you are.

3. Your beauty goes beyond your face and body: Have you ever seen a model that looks like a Barbie doll, small framed, flawless make-up, and perfectly layered, long flowing blonde hair? But the moment she opened her mouth all she would talk about herself and how beautiful she is boasting in herself. Has your vision of her beauty changed? More than likely it has because you are now viewing her holistically and not just by her outer appearance. True beauty radiates from the inside to the outside. When someone has a beautiful heart, it tends to radiate their physical appearance as well. Focus on having a beautiful mind, soul and spirit. Search your inner beauty and build on that. What makes you, you? How are you defined by others? Do they just focus on your outer appearance or do they talk about your inner beauty as well. You’re more than just your face and body. You are a beautiful soul too.

We tend to base our view of beauty entirely on society but have you ever wonder what the Bible says about make-up? There is only one instance in the bible where “painting” of ones face was mentioned.  “And when Jehu was come to Jezreel, Jezebel heard of it; and she painted her face, and tired her head, and looked out at a window” – 2 Kings 9:30. Jezebel doesn’t have a great reputation in the Bible she is known as an evil woman who did ungodly things. She worshipped pagan gods and urged her husband to do evil things (I Kings 21:25). Jezebel used make up to lure men. What is your purpose? To feel pretty? To find a man? I honestly do not believe wearing make-up is a sin but I believe it can lead to sinful behavior (seduction). Once a woman loses her identity and transforms into another person when she gets her face “beat” it’s a scary thing. When you become unrecognizable when you remove your make up, I believe it can cause more harm than good because you get used to wearing a mask and not being the real you. I say all this to encourage you to LOVE the skin you are in. Be proud of the beautiful woman God created you both spiritually and naturally.  YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL.